Being a Wife in This Generation
Last night, I was decorating our home for Fall, hanging garland in the living room while dinner cooked on the stove. The smell of meatballs and pasta filled the air, and suddenly I was back in my childhood, remembering the same warmth, coziness, and joy that once made home feel so special.
But this time, it wasn’t just nostalgia, it was reality. I was creating that same feeling in my home, with Jack, the home I used to only dream about. A candle was burning on the table, a Fall screensaver played on the TV, and I caught myself smiling because this was one of those moments that felt like an answered prayer.
I thought to myself, this is enough. Not in a careless way, like this will do, but in a holy way. For the first time in a long time, I felt, this is what I was made for.
The Pressure We Feel
Everywhere we look, there’s pressure to be more. Build the career. Build the platform. Build the brand. And those things aren’t bad. I genuinely love seeing women chase their dreams and use their gifts (hello, I’m a blogger). But somewhere along the way, culture started making us believe that being a wife, a homemaker, or simply a woman who wants to serve her family isn’t enough.
Lately, I’ve really wrestled with that. I catch myself thinking: Shouldn’t I be doing more? Am I wasting my gifts if I pour them into my home instead of the world? Does a paycheck or a title make me more valuable?
God’s Design is Beautiful
This morning, through tears, I was telling Jack all the ways the world tries to make me feel “less than” for not doing things a certain way. But as we talked, I was reminded to stand firm in what I believe in: God never called us to impress the world. He called us to be faithful. And my purpose doesn’t shift based on whether I have a job title or not, it stays the same.
When Scripture talks about wives and marriage, it paints a beautiful picture of love, respect, and service that reflects Christ Himself (Ephesians 5:25–33). And when I go back to that truth, I realize that folding laundry, making dinner, creating a peaceful space, praying over my husband…none of those things are “small.” They’re sacred. They’re important. They’re part of building, protecting, and serving my family.
Because at the end of the day, serving our homes is really about serving the Lord. Colossians 3:23 reminds us, “Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord.” Even the small, everyday things matter.
Serving is Enough
Before I go on, I want to pause and say this: I am not saying the most valuable thing a woman can be is a wife. Our worth doesn’t come from a ring on our finger, a title at work, or any role we play. Our worth comes from Jesus alone. Marriage is a gift, but so is singleness. Motherhood is a gift, but so is building a career or leading in your community. What matters most is not the role, but the faithfulness we bring to whatever God has entrusted to us.
Some days, being a wife feels light and joyful. Other days, it feels like hard work. But through it all, God keeps reminding me that I don’t have to prove myself to the world. I just have to be faithful in the role He has given me.
And sister, the same is true for you. Your worth isn’t measured by achievements, job titles, or how perfect your life looks online. Your worth is found in Christ. If He has called you to marriage, then being a wife is not a lesser calling. It is a Kingdom one.
So if you ever wonder whether what you are doing is enough, serving your husband, building a home, raising children, following Jesus, I want you to hear me say this: it is not small. It is holy, sacred work. It is eternal.
You don’t have to hustle for God’s love. You don’t have to earn an identity you already have. You are loved. You are chosen. You are equipped. And right where you are, with the gifts, the home, and the husband God has entrusted to you, you are doing Kingdom work.
So keep showing up. Keep serving with joy. And when the world does not notice, remember that Heaven does. And that will always be more than enough.
