Being a Girl Is Hard — But This Makes It Easier
Being a girl is a lot right now.
There’s pressure coming from everywhere to look good, feel good, be confident, have your life together, be productive, be disciplined, be healed, and be growing all at the same time. And somehow you’re supposed to do all of it without looking like you’re trying too hard.
Social media doesn’t help. It turns everyday life into a comparison game. You can be feeling fine, even proud of yourself, and one scroll later you’re questioning your body, your progress, your pace in life, and your worth. It makes it feel like confidence is something you’re constantly earning instead of something you’re allowed to naturally have.
So many of us end up rooting our confidence in how we look, how much we’re doing, or how our lives appear to other people, even when we don’t mean to. We start performing without realizing it. Performing our confidence. Performing our moods. Performing a version of ourselves that feels more acceptable to the world.
But confidence built that way never really lasts. It’s bound to crumble someday.
As much as we don’t like to talk about it, things always change. Your appearance changes. Your seasons change. People’s opinions change. And when your identity is tied to those things, the pressure to earn more confidence never lets you go. There’s always something else to fix. Something else to prove. Someone else doing it better.
That’s not what we were made for.
Rooting your identity in Christ really does change everything.
But if you’re a Christian woman, you’ve probably heard that phrase so many times and still find yourself wondering what Christ-centered confidence actually looks like in real life and why it’s supposed to feel so different.
I’ve been on my own journey with confidence over the last year, learning what it truly means to root my identity in Christ instead of the things of this world. Is it always easy? No. But is it worth it? A hundred times yes.
Christ-centered confidence reminds you that your worth isn’t something you have to earn or constantly maintain. You don’t have to prove that you’re enough. You don’t have to impress anyone to deserve feeling worthy. You don’t have to perform for a world that keeps changing the standards.
And honestly, the world was never a fair judge to begin with.
In Christ, your value is already settled. It’s done.
That doesn’t mean insecurity disappears. It just means insecurity doesn’t get the final say. You can have off days, bad body image days, days where you feel behind and still be secure in who you are.
Confidence starts to feel different. It carries less pressure and starts to feel like freedom. Less like striving and more like resting. Less like asking, “How do I measure up?” and more like knowing you’re already so loved.
You stop feeling like you need to change a million things about yourself to be worthy or beautiful.
So if you’re tired of proving yourself to the world, that doesn’t mean you’re failing. It might mean you’re finally realizing that the world can’t give you the kind of confidence it keeps promising.
And when you stop performing and start rooting your life in Christ, confidence becomes stronger, because it’s rooted in something real.
And it lasts.
This didn’t happen for me overnight. It showed up in small ways, in the way I talked to myself, the way I responded to comparison, and the way I brought my insecurities to God instead of trying to fix them alone.
I’ll be sharing more about what this has looked like for me in real life, because it’s practical, it’s imperfect, and it’s something you can actually live out too.
