How to Pray for Your Perfect Match
The reality is, we all want to find our person. Our best friend, partner, and love of our lives. The person who feels like home. You know… the person we daydream about before we even know if they exist? We imagine what they’re like, how they’ll treat us, and how God might bring us together in His perfect timing.
We all long for a true, healthy, steady love. Not perfect, because that just isn’t realistic, but the kind of love that’s perfect for us. And one thing I know for sure is that the deepest, healthiest desires of our hearts often come from God.
Now, that doesn’t mean every attraction or impulse is from Him. You might say, “But God, I’m drawn to bad boys…why would You put that on my heart?” Spoiler: He didn’t. But the longing for a safe, faithful, joy-filled love? The desire to be loved in a way that makes you flourish? That’s from Him. And sometimes, before God brings that kind of person into our lives, He has to work on us first.
Do I know for sure that God has a perfect person picked out for you? I don’t. But I do know that He hears your prayers. He knows the desires of your heart better than you do. And if there’s anyone I’d trust my love story with, it’s Him.
That’s what I did. And I know with all my heart that the little prayer journal I bought for my future husband on Amazon last summer played a part in me meeting my now husband, Jack.
Jack is everything I prayed for, and more than I ever knew to ask for. There are qualities about him that would’ve never even made it onto my “list.” But they’re exactly what I needed. Where I lack, he overflows. Where I struggle, he is strong. He’s not perfect, but he’s perfectly mine. And I know God wrote our story.
So how do you actually pray for the relationship you want? Here are some steps that helped me:
1. Get Clear on What You Want
Write down the desires of your heart. Be specific, almost like a vision board for your future person.
What is their relationship with God like?
How do they treat you and how do they treat others?
What values matter most to them?
What kind of life do they want to build?
What qualities make you feel safe, seen, and loved?
God isn’t intimidated by details. He actually cares about the small things too. He loves the details.
2. Think Beyond Just the Two of You
A relationship isn’t just about chemistry, it’s about building a life together. Take time to think and pray through the bigger picture:
What does a healthy marriage look like to me?
What kind of family do I hope to build one day?
How do we spend our time, money, and energy?
How do we serve God and others together?
Pray not just for romance, but for alignment in values, faith, and vision for the future.
3. Believe You’re Worthy of It
Sometimes the hardest part isn’t the waiting, it’s believing we’re actually worthy of what we’re praying for. Ask yourself:
Do I truly believe a healthy, God-centered relationship is possible for me?
Do I feel ready to receive it?
Are there old wounds, lies, or patterns that God might want to heal first?
Pray not only for your future person but also for you. Ask God to prepare your heart, strengthen your identity in Him, and grow you into the kind of woman who can love and be loved in a healthy way.
4. Be Clear….Then Surrender
It’s good to be specific, but don’t box God into your list. Sometimes what He gives you will be so much better than what you imagined. Pray boldly, but then release it:
Ask God for what’s on your heart.
Pray for your future husband’s growth, health, and walk with God.
Then say: “But Lord, I trust You with the outcome.”
That surrender is where the real magic happens, because it allows God to surprise you.
5. Trust His Timing
This might be the hardest part. Waiting. Not knowing how or when your story will unfold. But this is also where faith grows. While you wait, you can pray things like:
“God, prepare me to be the right person for the right person.”
“Help me use this season to grow, serve, and flourish.”
“Give me peace in the waiting.”
Because the truth is, God knows the desires of your heart, and He is ALWAYS on time.
Would I have ever guessed that my low-key Instagram crush would DM me one night and eventually become my husband? Absolutely not. But that’s the beauty of surrendering your love story to God. His plan is always better than anything you could have imagined.
Reminders:
If you’re in a season of praying for your future relationship, I want you to know that your prayers are never wasted. God hears every hope, every tear, every journal entry, every late-night conversation you have with Him about the love you long for.
He’s not ignoring you…He’s preparing you. He’s shaping your heart, strengthening your faith, and aligning the pieces of your story in ways you can’t see yet.
So keep praying. Keep dreaming. Keep believing that you are worthy of a love that reflects God’s goodness. And then let Him surprise you. Because one day, you’ll look back and realize He was writing something better than you could have ever imagined all along.
