If You’re in Your ‘Trying to Figure It Out’ Era, This Is For You
If you’re in your “trying to figure it out” era… this is for you.
Because honestly? I’m right there with you, sister.
Maybe you’re trying to build better habits, wake up earlier, feel healthier, or finally start becoming the woman you know God is calling you to be, but still, somehow, everything still feels a little all over the place.
You’re trying. And you’re growing. But some days you still catch yourself thinking, “Why does this feel so messy?”
And lately I’ve started to realize something:
becoming who you are meant to be isn’t always cute or aesthetic (sorry, Pinterest).
Sometimes it looks like waiting. Sometimes it looks like praying for clarity you don’t have yet. Sometimes it looks like trusting God when nothing in your life feels settled or figured out
And I’m learning that maybe that’s where this story really begins.
My Messy Becoming Era
If I’m being completely honest with you, my own becoming season has been anything but picture-perfect. It’s been hard, messy, confusing, and definitely not the “glow-up” the world romanticizes. But God has been molding me into the woman I’ve always prayed to become, and He’s answering my prayers… just in ways I never would’ve chosen for myself.
Does it suck to go back to a serving job while I’m hustling to build this blog? Yeah, sometimes.
But it’s also such a blessing to still get to do what I love and only work part time. Jack is building his business too, and entrepreneurship is no joke. There are highs, lows, and a whole lot of trust-falls in between. But God is finally bringing us into a good place. We just finished his office, and I’m genuinely excited for what God is doing.
We’re still not totally settled after all of our summer travel, and we’ve been trying to make our home feel like our home again. So no… I haven’t had a solid routine in a while. But this new job is helping me find a flow again. And right now, my goals are simple: stay consistent in the gym, deepen my relationship with God, save money, and grow this blog with my whole heart.
I have such a heart for the girls who feel like me. Who love God (or maybe don’t know Him yet but feel curious). Who want to build a beautiful life but feel overwhelmed by everything in the middle.
I feel called to help other women realize that a meaningful, beautiful life is so much more simple than the world makes it seem, and that God truly belongs at the center of it. I’m not a perfect blogger, and building this brand is really hard some days… but my heart is fully in it. I love this space. I love the girls who visit it. I want to build something special for all of us.
And none of this would mean anything without you, the incredible girl on the other side of these words.
I’m still figuring out how to bring us together in an even deeper way (I’m working on that!), but whew… thanks for letting me rant. That’s just the reality of becoming the girl you know you’re meant to be…sometimes you just need to let it all out imperfectly.
There are so many messy “in-between” seasons. I’m in one right now, and I know you might be too. But life is still so good. And even here, even now, I’m still choosing to show up for my best life. And you can too.
God has good plans for you, girl. Don’t forget it.
The truth is, becoming isn’t one big moment where everything finally clicks.
It’s a bunch of tiny decisions you make on random Tuesdays when you’d rather give up, but you don’t. It’s choosing to trust God when nothing makes sense yet. It’s letting Him work in the parts of your life you’d rather skip over.
Becoming is rarely something grand or glamorous. It’s not always aesthetic. Sometimes it looks like juggling a serving job, figuring out your finances, rebuilding routines from scratch, learning discipline again, crying in the shower, or praying the same prayer for the hundredth time. But that’s still a part of the process of becoming who you’re meant to be.
Because God doesn’t just wait around to meet you at the finish line. He meets you right in the middle. In the in-between. In the “I don’t know what I’m doing but I’m trying.” In the version of you who is showing up even when it feels slow and unseen.
And if you feel behind? You’re not.
If you feel confused? You’re normal.
If everything looks different than you imagined? That’s usually the first sign that God is doing something deeper and more lasting than a surface-level glow-up.
Maybe becoming, in God’s eyes, has less to do with changing your life and more to do with changing your heart.
Maybe it’s less about the results and more about the resilience He’s building inside you.
Maybe the season you’re in right now, the messy one, the uncertain one, the “I thought I’d be further along by now” one is exactly where He needs you so He can prepare you for what you’ve been praying for.
And trust me… you don’t have to have it all together to be in your becoming era. You don’t have to be perfect to be growing. You don’t have to see the finish line for God to already be leading you toward it.
You’re becoming in the way that matters most…from the inside out, because He’s doing the work in you.
So take a breath. Give yourself some grace. And remember that the woman you’re meant to become isn’t somewhere far away in the future. She’s already here. She’s already you. She’s taking one brave, faithful step at a time toward the life God created her for. This is an important part of your story.
God has such good plans for you, girl. And He’s right in the middle of the mess with you.
